September 1, 2010 | Inner Mean Girl 40-Day Cleanse,The 4-1-1 on Me
I’m participating in the 40-day Inner Mean Girl Cleanse.. For 40 days, I am joining women around the world to cleanse my system of 6 toxic habits of my Inner Mean Girl (gossip, comparison, judgment, expectations, and obligations) and replace them with self-loving habits instead. Join me.
This week’s toxin is: Comparison
The Mission: To refrain from comparison and pick up the self-loving habits of inspiration, appreciation, and gratitude for the next 7 days.
So, needless to say, I would’ve failed this miserably today if I’d read it earlier. My Comparison Queen came out and stopped all over my ass today. In stilettos. Today, my supervisor was talking about her future plans and how eventually she would leave the company and how, if I wanted to, step into her shoes.
Uh, that would be a hell to the no.
First of all, the thought of leaving this job and starting anew somewhere else scares the shit out of me. I’m in a rut–a cozy rut–and I like it there. She makes the job worthwhile. After 3 yrs of working together, we know each other. The dynamics will totally change when she leaves.
And she will leave.
Second, I couldn’t do all the high-level stuff that she does. “I didn’t know how to either, when I first came here,” she said. I don’t believe her. It seems like having the ability to talk like you know what you’re talking about–and have mangers and above actually listen–is just something that comes naturally.
I don’t feel that it doesn’t–for me–and yet I want to start my own business. Go figure.
So, when my Comparison Queen decides to put on her stomping shoes, I need to do the following:
1. Allow the person you are comparing yourself with to lift me up instead. Use what your Comparison Queen attacks you with as a source of inspiration to shift or take an action in your life.
2. Appreciate the other person, and appreciate myself. Take the thing you are comparing and tell that person, or yourself, that you appreciate them for it.
3. Be grateful for what you have right now. Broaden your scope of success and get grateful for the success you do have.
I think this may be easier than the gossip thing.
JUST A REMINDER: There’s still time to add “your two cents” to Chapter 5 of A Royale Pain: A Draven Atreides, Teenage Informant Novel. It’s the final chapter I’ll be posting for my class project and comments close on Sunday.
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